Do you and your partner have pet names for each other? Do you use them in private or in public? How do you feel about cutesy names like babe, honey, sugar? Are you ok with being affectionately called slut or bitch? Spill the beans! Dare to tell us your pet name!
I’ve always been torn on this subject. As a born and raised Southern girl, there is the casual use of “hon,” “sweetie” and “dear”… casual meaning, we will address complete strangers this way! I’ve been known to start a conversation with a walmart checker with, “How are you today, hon?” And even more often am I referred to the same, “What can I help you with, sweetie?”
We’re a fakely warm culture, down here in Dixie. I will likely get into trouble for saying that, and perhaps fake isn’t the right word. I think if someone, even a stranger, uses those words, they are meant to be friendly and open and make you feel good; that is how I use them. I will often use a casual endearment if I can tell a stranger is having a bad day. It’s an instinct for me to reach out and see if I can offer a little kindness, let them know they’re not alone. But I’ve been told by my non-southern friends that we’re often seen as disingenuous. I suppose that’s something you just have to take on an individual basis. Get to know me, and you’ll know I’m anything but.
As far as using them in personal relationships, they are a sign of deeper affection for me. And sometimes I have a hard time finding the one that fits. My OH and I use mostly ‘darlin’ and ‘hon.’
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